Sunday, September 29, 2024

Is it common for adults to feel unsure about what they are doing? How do people typically handle this uncertainty?



In the early years of adult life, yes.

In the early months of a new job, yes.

In the early years of a relationship, or marriage, yes.

One may be unsure of what to do.

Some people may need to be told what to do, as specifically as possible.

To give you an example:

Someone starting out in the art department of an ad agency, may need to be told “create a few different drawings of a house”, rather than be told “depict your vision of real estate”.

If you are unsure of what you are doing, seek information.

And keep seeking information, until you are sure of what you are doing.

If the feeling of being unsure of what you are doing persists through different jobs, different lifestyle choices, and different money choices in your life, and even as you grow older (the sense of having not found what you are looking for, or what you expected), that’s part of being human.

You are where you are, because of many factors, some based on your choices, some based on factors outside of your control.

You made some choices.

Those choices led to other choices, which led to other choices, which led to other choices.

There are also factors that were not in your control.

If not for this or that event happening, the chain of events might have turned out differently.

Don’t look back.

Look only at now or ahead.

Back is what you can’t change.

Now and ahead is where you can make new choices.

The new choices must involve a “new attitude”.

An attitude of “I will do my best, and let God (or the universe) take care of the rest”.

Spend the time that’s purely yours - time when you are not at work, and not doing chores, praying and meditating about being more meaningful and purposeful in the choices you make.

And pray for some of your old stubbornness to die.

And pray and meditate to develop more compassion for the people in your life, and to be able to develop more tolerance for them, and to make more sacrifices for them.

You can make today better than yesterday, for yourself, and for the people who mean the most to you.

You can bring back the awe and wonder and gratitude of being alive.

A new attitude can open your eyes to the blessings you might be taking for granted.

A new attitude can lead to the choices that will make you say, “I have never been surer about this being the right thing to do, than when I decided to do X”.

I hope your new attitude will lead you to your first “X”, so you never have to ask the following question again:

“Is it common for adults to feel unsure about what they are doing? How do people typically handle this uncertainty?”

Or there are fewer and fewer occasions when you have to ask that question.

Your new attitude and your new choices will have taken care of that.

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