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Sweet Potato Pie
Take…
- 4 ounces butter, softened
- 2 cups cooked and mashed sweet potatoes
- 2 cups granulated sugar
- 1 small can (5 ounces, about 1/2 cup plus 2 tablespoons) evaporated milk
- 1 teaspoon vanilla
- 3 eggs, beaten
- 1 1/2 teaspoons cinnamon
- 2 prepared pie shells, unbaked
Step 1 - Mix butter, potatoes, sugar and
evaporated milk until well blended.
Step 2 -
Add vanilla, eggs, and cinnamon
Step 3 - Mix well.
Step 3 - Mix well.
Step 4 - Pour into the prepared pie shells.
Step 5 -
Bake
in a 350° oven for about 1 hour, until set.
Step 6 – Serve to 3 generations of a family –Mother, daughter and grand-daughter (who is your favorite of them all) as you say “Happy Thanksgiving”
Step 6 – Serve to 3 generations of a family –Mother, daughter and grand-daughter (who is your favorite of them all) as you say “Happy Thanksgiving”
The
United States of Friendship Part 6 – Val and Kim
Should you
wait to do something?
Or do it right
away?
When does
delayed gratification make sense?
Say you
are thinking about getting a new car, or maybe a new tv, or a new appliance….
Are you
better off postponing?
Figuring
out if you really want it or need it?
Should you
wait till the prices come down?
Set aside money for 6 months of expenses before you do anything else?
What makes
sense to you?
How about
waiting to get married?
Or to have
kids?
Is it
better to give yourself time for life’s big decisions?
Is there
an ideal age?
Biologically,
psychologically, circumstantially…..
What makes
sense to you?
How about
doing something you’ve always wanted to do - like travelling around the world,
or taking up a time-intensive sport or hobby?
Better to
do it when you are young, unencumbered, have the physical capacity - no
one to answer to about time or money?
What makes
sense to you?
How about
getting together with family or friends to do something you always talked about
doing together? Like a vacation.
Should you
put it off for a future time?
When it
would be convenient for everyone?
When
you’ve reached some arbitrary goal – the launch of 10.0 or something?
What makes
sense to you?
I think a
lot about this every time I think about my neighbor Valarie.
She and I
talked about doing a trip to Hearst Castle together.
The plan was for Valarie, her daughter Kim, my mother, Tanita and I to go together.
Valarie
would drive - she had a van.
My mother had arthritis, but wheelchairs were available at Hearst Castle so
she could enjoy the Hearst Castle tour with the rest of us.
We talked
about whether we would do a day trip.
Or stay
overnight.
If we stayed
overnight, we could choose the “Accessibly Designed Evening Tour”.
Hearst
Castle was something we all looked forward to and talked about.
Hearst
Castle is located in San Simeon.
So every
now and then, I would jump on the internet and check out everything San Simeon
had to offer.
But I knew
even if we had time only for the Castle, it would be an experience to remember.
We would
get to see how William Randolph Hearst, the famous media mogul, and grandfather
of Patty Hearst, lived.
(Patty Hearst –because of the news media’s
propensity to televise sensational news – is perhaps even more well-known than
her grandfather to lay people all over the world.)
Now as I
write this post, I think about that trip to Hearst Castle with Valarie.
Because we
never got around to doing it!
We often
lack imagination about the future.
When we
were making plans for Hearst Castle, my mother was still a sprightly 73.
Despite arthritis
and several other chronic ailments, she actively participated in and enjoyed all
the activities Tanita and I were involved in.
Even Great
America and Gilroy Gardens.
It was
hard to imagine she would pass just a few years later.
Still
harder to imagine that less than 3 years after Mummy was gone, Valarie would
be gone too, succumbing to an illness that would take her from our lives.
I was
frankly quite shocked at the speed with which Valarie went from being the busy
vibrant, church chaplain I knew her to be, out and about and interested in
everyone and everything, to being home-bound and confined to bed; and then equally
quickly, gone.
Even
seeing her sick, knowing what I knew, her passing came as a shock.
Valarie
was still Valarie, the very last time I saw her – full of her unique brand of Valarie-
spunk and Valarie opinions – you couldn’t take that away from her, even when
she was confined to a hospital bed in her home.
We never
made it to Hearst Castle.
But I am
glad for all the places Valarie, Kim and my family did make it to.
Like
Cathedral of Faith (especially the Easter and Christmas services).
Oakridge Mall.
Cheesecake Factory.
And the
movies and dinner on Tanita’s birthday.
A few
weeks before Tanita’s birthday one year, Valarie announced “Tanita, as a
birthday gift, we are going to a movie and dinner. So tell your mum to pick a day and you and her pick a movie. Make sure it’s PG, though, because you
know Aunty Valarie only sees PG rated movies”.
And this
is how we went to see Princess Diaries, a movie which remains one of Tanita’s favorites even today.
After the
movie, the 5 of us, Val, Kim, Mummy, Tanita and I went to Mandarin Gourmet for dinner.
It was our
first time at Mandarin Gourmet, a restaurant famous for its exceptional lunch special
values and speedy and courteous service.
Mandarin Gourmet is one of Tanita’s favorite restaurants
even today; she especially likes their Honey
Walnut Shrimp.
Valarie
introduced Tanita to Honey Walnut Shrimp.
Valarie
introduced Tanita to braids.
And
Valarie introduced Tanita to church.
Just as Tanita
barged into our neighbor Steve’s life, she barged into Valarie’s life and asked
to go to church with her and Kim.
It was the
beginning of a weekly routine which would last for many years.
Every
Sunday and every Wednesday, Valarie and Kim would faithfully take Tanita to
Cathedral of Faith.
Of course
they would spoil her with treats as well.
Treats
which ranged from Happy Meals to new clothes to doing her hair.
From when
she was very young, Tanita loved it when anyone did her hair.
Many would have
a go at Tanita’s hair - from her Aunt Ann - to her neighborhood playmate Kayla -
to her high-school classmate Hannah.
Kayla’s
experiments would terrify me, because being so young herself, Tanita would
sometimes come home with something dreadful which I would want to undo immediately.
(Of course Tanita wouldn’t let me!)
But Kim,
Valarie’s daughter had a talent for hair, and she did Tanita’s hair many more
times and in many more ways, and did it well.
She would French-braid
Tanita’s hair (Tanita’s favorite).
Or curl it
(Her second favorite).
Or put it
in a bun.
Kim would also
give Tanita French manicures.
The French
manicures would send Tanita over the moon.
Kim had
only to say the words “French Manicure” and Tanita would drop everything she
was doing and run over to Val and Kim’s apartment. Sometimes, if Kim had the
energy, she would even let a friend or two accompany Tanita , so they could all
get Kim’s famous French Manicures.
Valarie was
an excellent cook.
Enticing
smells regularly wafted from her apartment to ours.
And one
Thanksgiving, she sent over a piece of sweet potato pie which was divine.
When
Valarie passed away, Kim asked if we would speak at her Memorial.
Tanita gave
a moving speech about all Valarie had meant to her.
One of the
last memories Tanita had of Valarie is this one….
I had asked
Valarie if Tanita could stay in her house after school on the days I went into work.
Valarie,
in spite of being sick and confined to bed, readily agreed.
One day, when
Tanita was over at her place, Valarie asked Tanita what she would like to
eat.
Typically,
Tanita would eat the tv dinner or can of Chef Boyardee I had left for her at
Valarie’s.
“Would you
like McDonalds?” asked Valarie.
“McDonalds!” exclaimed Tanita, “how can we go
to McDonalds, Aunty Valarie?”
Valarie
had never been out of her apartment, except on a stretcher, for months and
months.
“C’mon,
child, let’s go,” said Valarie.
And saying
that, Valarie got out of bed, got her walker, and set off with Tanita
to the Mcdonalds next to our apartment, which, a short sprint for a healthy
person, would have been a marathon for her that day.
This is one
of Tanita’s last memories of “Aunty Valarie”.
A precious
one.
Thank you
Valarie.
Thank you
Kim.
For all the good times and joy you brought Mummy, Tanita and myself.
We were
blessed to have you as our neighbors.
As I sit
here, writing this post, I think about that trip to Hearst Castle.
And wonder
how it might have been.
Dear Reader - thanks for reading and
hope to see you next week when there will be another installment of the United
States of Friendship…..
I hope this post gets you thinking about
what can wait in your life and what can’t. I leave you with that thought today……..M,
a Pearl-Seeker like you.
3 comments:
Can‘t say for sure Minoo;for He has plans for each of us.
The post is lovely as always and thank you for the same.
Hi Aarathi...this means that you are living life the way it should be. When we aren't, then comes the internal imperative "This can't wait". Yeah, for you!!!!!!!And thanks for taking the time to comment....much appreciated!
Thanks Ajay....I always look out for your comments because they are as sure as the sun rises....Minoo
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