Sunday, May 28, 2017

When The Ego Is Conquered


When the ego is conquered….

Your real gifts are revealed.

More of life becomes available to you.

False pride will not deter you.

Real empathy is possible.

Productive collaboration can begin.

Relationships can heal and flourish.

Frustrations become easier to deal with.

Real communion will be experienced.

Real joy can be experienced.

Real peace will descend.

Real victories will be accomplished.

You will be a real blessing to other people.

You will lift other people’s spirits.

You will feel a real sense of connection.

Self-consciousness will not get in the way of your plans.

Ups and downs will have less impact.

You will take less things personally.

What you do will matter to you more than what happens to you.

When the ego is conquered…..wisdom begins.

As always, thanks for sharing my Journey to Wisdom, Meaning and a Better Life,  and have a great day and week….M ……a Pearl Seeker like you.  Thanks to Ajay for his compliments on my last post, and thanks to the rest of you for your likes, pins, shares, tweets and votes…..much appreciated.

P.S. Just like you, I am trying to find my way out of this complicated maze we call life, and I am honored to have you share my journey.

P.S.2. Before I end this post, Happy Birthday to all those with May b’days.  Hope you use your birthday month to birth something new and wonderful in your life.

Posts to help you on your journey to conquering your ego…








Sunday, May 21, 2017

Maybe It’s Time To Decide What’s the Most Important Thing

The most important thing is the priority.

It is what you cannot overlook.

It is what you cannot neglect.

It is what you should attend to immediately.

It is what you need to do first.

It is the elephant in the room.

Just say you want to get a certain kind of job.

You lack the most important skill required for that job.

The most important thing is then for you to acquire the skill for that job.

You can acquire the skill through education, or you can acquire the skill through apprenticeship.

You can acquire the skill through formal learning, or you can acquire the skill through self-teaching.

But acquire the skill you must.

Until you have acquired the skill, you have an unconquerable obstacle.

Just say you want to succeed in sales.

Succeeding will mean you have to identify customers who have the best potential, talk to them about your product, and persuade them to buy your product.

The most important thing then for you, is to identify as many high potential customers as possible, and talk to them.

Just say you are in sales, and you have been knocking on the doors of high potential customers, but your success rate in closing deals is low.

The most important thing then is for you to work on your sales pitch, or on the areas of your communication that are obstructing the sales close.

If you don’t work on your sales pitch, and the areas of your communication that are obstructing the sales close, you will continue to have a poor sales success rate.

Identifying the most important thing is important in any area of your life.

Let’s look at some more examples.

Let’s say you need to find work.

But the reason you lost your previous job is a substance abuse problem.

The most important thing for you then is to overcome your substance abuse problem.

Without overcoming your substance abuse problem, you will continue to lose jobs; you may blow some really cool and miraculous opportunities.

Let’s look at some more examples.

Let’s say you want to buy your first house.

Your bank or lender says you need a 20% down payment, plus a job and income history of at least 2 years, and a good credit history.

The most important thing for you then is to save towards the down payment, to acquire a job and income history of at least 2 years, and to build your credit score.

Without that, you cannot buy your first house.

Let’s look at another example.

Let’s say, for whatever reason, you have a non-existent or poor relationship with your children or family.

You want to improve your relationship with your children and family.

The most important thing for you then is to identify the reason for your poor or non-existent relationship with your children and family, and address that problem. You have to do that before you do anything else.

Your relationship will continue to be poor or non-existent, until you address the most important thing.

Other things will not matter, will not have lasting effect, until the most important thing is addressed and solved.

Let’s keep going and look at one final example.

Let’s say you are highly skilled, highly experienced manager, and you are capable of making a huge contribution to any company who hires you.

But you lack emotional control, so you have a poor reputation as a manager, and nobody wants to work for you.

The most important thing then is for you to work on your emotional control.

If you don’t, you will keep losing good reports, and continue to have a poor management record.

There is nothing new in what I am saying.  Everything I have said has been said before.  The only thing new is you deciding to address the most important thing, and to address the most important thing as soon as possible.

Your decision may come after a stretch of failures and unproductive behaviors.

It doesn't matter, because it is never too late.

However big the challenge before you, its never too late to address it, taking it step by step.

Start today by tackling the most important thing.

Maybe it’s time.

So where do you begin?

If your issue is emotional control, start here.

As always, thanks for sharing my Journey to Wisdom, Meaning and a Better Life,  and have a great day and week….M ……a Pearl Seeker like you.  Thanks to Ajay for his compliments on my last post, and thanks to the rest of you for your likes, pins, shares, tweets and votes…..much appreciated.

P.S.  This post was inspired by Howard Marks, founder of Oaktree Capital Management , and author of the book The Most Important Thing.  If you are an investor, and haven't read any of Howard Marks' famous "memos", they are well worth your time. Howard Marks' memos go all the way back to 1990, and you can read his thoughts on the important events of 1998 (LTCM) 2000 (Irrational Exuberance), 2001 (9/11), 2008 (Market Crash), 2016,(Elections) all the way to 2017.

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Sunday, May 14, 2017

Maybe It’s Time To Become Better To Be Around

People who are positive are better to be around. Stop being negative.

Listeners are better to be around. Give other people a chance to talk.

Civilized people are better to be around.  Mind your manners.

People without bad habits are better to be around.  Watch your habits.

Simple people are better to be around.   Don’t complicate things.

Those who think before they act or react are better to be around.  Think before you act or react.

Those without an agenda are better to be around. Don't be manipulative.

People who are more appreciative are better to be around.  Say thanks and show thanks.

People who do not use offensive language and gestures are better to be around. Mind your tongue.

Those who are considerate and sensitive to your needs are better to be around. Don’t walk all over other people’s feelings.

People who do not steal your thunder are better to be around. Don’t try to undermine other people’s victories.

People who are cheerful are better to be around. Don’t be a downer.

People who are truly contrite are better to be around.  Say sorry and mean it.

People who do not pass their trip onto you are better to be around. Don’t take your frustrations out on anyone.

People who are punctual and have a respect for your time are better to be around. Be on time, stand by your commitments.

Undemanding folks are better to be around.  Adapt –Don’t be difficult.

Those who are not opinionated are better to be around.  Save the commentary.

Team players are better to be around. Don’t look out only for Number 1.

Helpful people are better to be around. Reach out.

Hospitable people are better to be around. Make people feel at home.

Nonjudgmental people are better to be around.  Be more open and accepting

People who do not criticize or lecture are better to be around. Advise, don’t chastise.

Encouraging people are better to be around. Find your inner Tony Robbins, Brian Tracy, Eckhart Tolle, Wayne Dyer, Scott Peck, Jack Canfield, Trevor Blake.

People who do not take things personally are better to be around. Shed the thin skin.

Givers are better to be around. Don’t be a tight wad.

Non needy folks are better to be around. Drop the “me, me, me”.

People who do not do put you at risk are better to be around. Be the shelter, not the storm.

People who do not create unexpected financial or physical burdens are better to be around. Be self-sufficient.

People who do not inconvenience others are better to be around. Don’t be an unexpected inconvenience or expense to others.

Folks who do not show off are better to be around. Make others feel good, not bad.

Folks who do not make you stray from your principles are better to be around. Find your north star.

People who do not have hot buttons are better to be around. Don’t be a fire-cracker.

Low maintenance people are better to be around.

There is nothing new in what I am saying.  Everything I have said has been said before.  The only thing new is you deciding to change what needs to be changed, and to do it as soon as you finish reading this page.

The decision to change may arise out of your brokenness, your loss, your despair, your futility, or a sudden realization this is what will save you.

Whatever it arises out of, start living your life according to the laws of “who is better to be around” and “who is not”, and you will have more company, more friends, better relationships, and a more fulfilling life.

So where do you begin?

I advise beginning here.

Maybe it is time …..

As always, thanks for sharing my Journey to Wisdom, Meaning and a Better Life,  and have a great day and week….M ……a Pearl Seeker like you.  Thanks to Ajay for his compliments on my last post, and thanks to the rest of you for your likes, pins, shares, tweets and votes…..much appreciated.

P.S. Happy Mother’s Day to all mothers reading this post

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Sunday, May 7, 2017

A New Man

Maybe it’s time to be a new man

What new changes will it take?

What new changes in habits?

What new changes in routine?

What new changes in the way you respond to the people around you; and the events you have no control over?

Maybe it’s time to be a new woman

What new changes will it take?

What new evaluations?

What new thoughts and ideas?

What new decisions and actions?

Maybe it’s time to be a new parent

What new changes will it take?

What new modes of communication?

What new patterns of understanding?

What new changes in availability and example?

Maybe it’s time to be a new child

What new changes will it take?

What new changes in respect?

What new changes in responsibility and accountability?

What new changes in caring?

If you find yourself stuck, and in the same place again and again, make a commitment to yourself to usher in new ways of thinking, being, and acting. Become a new man, woman, parent, spouse, child.

Maybe it’s time!

As always, thanks for sharing my Journey to Wisdom, Meaning and a Better Life,  and have a great day and week….M ……a Pearl Seeker like you

P.S. Just like you, I am trying to find my way out of this complicated maze we call life and I am honored to have you share my journey.

Thanks to Ajay for his compliments on my last post, and thanks to the rest of you for your likes, pins, shares, tweets and votes…..much appreciated.

Happy Birthday to all those with May b’days.  Hope you use your birthday month to birth something new and wonderful in your life.

Before I go, I would like to share 2 stories with you.

Both have the same message – “It is never too late to change”