Sunday, October 25, 2020

Of Cats, Cricket, and Childhood - by Sangeeta Patel


The handsome colonial building and the estate around it had a hypnotic charm about it… and the low wall which separated it from my property, and the fact that my kitchen and study overlooked it, allowed me to gaze at it as I went about my day.

The garden was wild, and beyond the mango trees, were the remnants of an arched gateway for the horse carriage to pass and low dwellings for the staff.

Perhaps at one time it was the stables. 

Decades ago, an old lady lived there all by herself.

The only sight one got of her was mid morning, when the gleaming white Ambassador would pull up, and she would set off in her crisp cotton sari, and return after lunch.

The gossip I heard from my old help was that she loved to play cards and dine at the club.

Later, I would spy a young foreign looking woman come around and work began in restoring the building to its grandeur.

She turned it into a magical retail space and cafe, preserving a piece of Old Madras, and I finally got to see the beauty of the inside of the mansion, the chequered black and white marble flooring, the majestic wooden staircase and balustrade , the details of the cornice work of the high ceilings and the views out of the tall windows . 

The store then moved for reasons which are unimportant, and soon the building started looking neglected and abandoned, forcing my eye onto the staff quarters.

It was home to a young family, and the children and I befriended each other out of mutual need; they because I had to retrieve their ball which would land inside my compound, and me because my cat Bushy would wander into theirs and be brought back to me.

Our conversations would be mostly about cats and cricket.

For me, observing their childhood, the bond between the siblings, the older boy teaching his little sister to play cricket, and to ride a bicycle, play hide and seek, and climb trees, reminded me of my own childhood,  growing up in big army Cantonment homes.

I would see the kids help their mother with her chores, and make traditional eatables that would be put out to dry in the sun.

There was a lot of outdoor living that I was privy to. 

It was so uplifting to the soul to watch them grow, their bond a delight to see.

As they found new interests to entertain themselves, the bicycle soon gave way to a scooter.

Cricket was always a constant.

The little girl had started wearing a long skirt, and her unruly hair was oiled and plaited.

The boy had grown tall and lanky and wore trousers to high school.

He wanted to become an architect he would tell me, and his sister would want to do whatever he did!

Then one day a van pulled up, and the family silently went about loading their belongings into the van.

I called out to the children, but they refused to look in my direction.

I could see they looked crestfallen and sad.

Hurriedly they left without a backward glance.

I was perturbed and saddened by their sudden departure; I could not imagine what had made them leave.

The next morning I got my answer.



I woke up to the sound of JCB vehicles pulling in to pull the old mansion down.

Another piece of the glory that was once Madras, now just a heap of bricks, without a goodbye, just like there was no bidding goodbye to the family that left.

The house would now become home to many families, as apartments would take its place, but would any of the children who would come to live there have a childhood like that of my little friends?

Sunday, October 18, 2020

Time Be More Kind

 


Time be more kind

Don't take away the feet I use

If you give me carbuncles and plantar

What a waste of all those lovely shoes.

 

Time cut me some slack

Don't take away what I can eat

If you give me dyspepsia and gum disease

What a waste of all those treats.

 

Time be more compassionate

Don't take away the use of my hands

If you give me arthritis, or numbness

What a waste of those artistic visions so grand.

 

Time be more tender-hearted

Don't take away the use of my lungs,  or weaken my vocal chords or breathing

If you give me breathlessness, or an inability to use my voice

What a waste of all the songs and hymns I love to sing.

 

Time be more gentle

Don't  take away my ability to go out on the town

If you take away the language of my limbs

What a waste of those elegantly tailored suits and gowns.

 

Time be more generous

Don't make my days full of ails

If you give me more bad days than good

What a waste of those splendid parks and trails.

 

Time be more considerate

Don't take away the underpinnings of my leisure

If you take away my ability to walk, drive, or fly

What a waste of earth's amazing treasures.

 

Time, are you listening?

No, I see there's no appeal.

Well, go ahead then, wreak all the havoc you want on my body.

My spirit and soul you can't steal.

 

Time, did you hear me?

No, it appears you don't seem to care much

GO AHEAD, BREAK DOWN MY BODY, then

My spirit and soul you can't touch.

 

Time, time, time…listen up

I hope I've made it clear.

Read my lips, my body is not the end of it.

My spirit and soul are still here.

 

Case closed.

 

Dear Reader, this post is dedicated to anyone who is fighting the ravages of time or disease, and to honor the memories of those who have shown us, that though time and disease may take away anything from us, and in some cases everything from us, they cannot take away our spirit and soul. 

Sunday, October 11, 2020

Don't Take Advice From Anybody



Don’t take advice from anybody

Who is playing a different game

Who has different goals, abilities, and desires from you

And few things about you are the same.

 

Their game may be to save money

At the risk of living well

To you that may not be a life worth living

In fact, it may even be a living hell.

 

Their game may be to seek adventure

By going from one thing to another

You may prefer a more predictable path

Anything else may seem too much of a bother.

 

They may be cut out for high volume work and chasing money

You may be cut out for more meaningful work, and a sensible pace

Don't try to copy their 'say yes to anything’ approach

Think twice before you jump into an unhealthy rat race.

 

They may, when temptation strikes

Go against the moral grain

You may have clearer ideas of right and wrong

You should continue to stay in your lane

 

Think twice about taking advice

From someone who is not like you

Do you really think you can live someone else's life?

If you know you wear different shoes?

 

Some people may prefer to be lone wolves

You may like the certainty of a commitment

Don't envy the lone wolves their freedom

Their way is not better, just different.

 

Don’t take advice from anybody

Even if it they seem to know more, and seem to be better adjusted than you do

Take your own pulse of everything

Accept only those ideas which make sense for you.

 

You have your own goals, abilities, and desires

Your circumstances are not the same

So before you jump in and take advice from anybody

First thing to do is ask yourself,

"Am I playing the same game?"

 

That's All From Me Today, Folks...On this beautiful Oct 11, 2020 Sunday!

Sunday, October 4, 2020

I Said Goodbye To Fear and Fury

 


I said goodbye to fear and fury

When I started to meditate

Something changed inside me

I knew I'd never be the same.

 

I became less afraid of saying things

I became as you would say less pc

The reason why I did this

Is I began to trust both myself and humanity.

 

I trusted myself to say things

And to learn if I was right or wrong

I wanted to keep only my good ideas and judgments

And to my bad and terrible ideas, say so long.

 

Meditation made me more mindful

Able to deal with situations with compassion instead of rage and alarm

Even if a careless or angry word or two escaped my lips

I was quickly able to replace this with caring, understanding, peace offerings, and calm.

 

I have started getting upset for briefer and briefer spells

And occasions are rare when I become intensely overwrought

I am able to deal with criticisms and disappointments much better

I am able to get unstuck from sad, bitter, angry, and unforgiving thoughts.

 

So if you want to say goodbye to fear and fury

And if you want to give the fretter, fumer, and worrier a rest

My advice is to start praying or meditating

Meditation and prayer will help you do that best.

 

It will stop you from alternating between fear, sadness, worry, and fury

You will second guess yourself and others less

You will find your center of peace, trust, and compassion quickly

And stay calm even in times of unkindness, uncertainty, and stress.

 

I said goodbye to fear and fury

And I have never been the same

Meditation helped me break out of habits and reflexes accumulated over a lifetime

That used to keep me in anger, worry, and pain.

 

Do you want to say goodbye to fear and fury?

Yes? Then, this much is plain

Start praying or meditating regularly

And you will cause (as well as be caused) less fear,anger, and pain.

 

Dear Reader, prayer and meditation have a marvelous capacity to move our spirits, and transform us from the inside out.  They have done for me what nothing else could do. Use the powerful tools of prayer or meditation to improve the quality of your emotional life and your relationships.