Sunday, December 27, 2015

A Christmas Tradition Is Restored



In response to my Christmas story, Advice from a Retired Elf (RE) to an Aspiring Elf (AE), my cousin Audrey wrote, “Great, Minoo. Maybe I am still an AE.” And my friend Ajay said, “Nice story, Minoo. Want More!!!!”

So here’s one more Christmas story, while the season is still upon us…..

              A Christmas Tradition is Restored

“Why can’t Daddy build the snowman with me like we always do?” she said.

“Your Daddy had an unexpected problem, my dear,” I said, “so he said we should go ahead and start the snowman. He will be back to finish it.”

She didn’t say anything, but she looked awfully thoughtful.

We continued packing snow on the orb, which would become the base of the snowman.

I broke the silence, “We need to make his body as big as we can.  Then we can get started on the head.”

“No, silly!  What about the tummy?  We need to make his tummy before we make the head.  I don’t think we can get the head and tummy on without Daddy” she said.

“He’ll be back by that time.” I said. “Meanwhile, we should do as much as we can.  We want to make your Daddy proud. Won’t he be proud when he comes home and sees how far we got?

”I guess so” she said.

Just then, the phone rang indoors.

“I’ll get it.  I’ll get it” she said, dropping the snow that was in her hands, wiping her hands on her overalls, and rushing inside the French doors of the villa.

I followed her, but stayed out of vision.

“Hello, this is Pen” I heard her say.

I didn’t know who was on the phone, and what they said, but she listened to whatever the caller had to say, and said, “It’s too late” and banged the phone down.

I tiptoed back to just outside the door of the villa, so she wouldn’t guess I had been snooping on her.

“I was just coming in to get a drink of water. Do you want one too? Who called?” I asked her, as she came out.

“Oh, just a wrong number,” she said, but her teeth were clenched. “C’mon, Nanny Pickle, we need to go faster” she said, taking my hand. “Get your water fast.”

Names are strange things.

Soon after I started working for the family, Pen (short for Penny) noticed I ate pickle with every meal.

She was curious about that.

Once she asked to try pickle, and I let her dip the tip of a finger in and taste it. She couldn’t believe how hot it was, and she didn’t like the taste either.  “Eww” she said.

“Why do you have to eat pickle with everything?” she asked me.

“Because my first name is Pickle” I replied.

“Nanny Pickle.  Should I call you that?”

Her father tried to protest, but I said, “No, I think it’s endearing. I like Nanny Pickle” 

From that day on, I was “Nanny Pickle” to her, and sometimes, just “Pickle”.

Now let’s get back to the story….

We both drank some water, and she made me do a half-run back to the snowman.

Then both of us started creating snowballs at a rapid pace, and adding them to the base.

“Faster, faster,” she said.

There were tears in her eyes. The call had something to do with it.

She turned away every few seconds to wipe the tears.

“Faster, Nanny Pickle, faster”

“Let’s start on the tummy.”

“Isn’t the base still too small?” I asked.

“No, it looks fine,” she said.

“Ok, we’ll start on the tummy, then,” I said, feeling her impatience.

And so we started on the tummy.

Soon she was insisting we build the head, though the tummy was still too small. I decided not to argue.

We started on the head of the snowman.

A car turned into the driveway.

“It’s your Daddy,” I said.

She purposely turned her head away and focused her attention on the snowman.

He parked the car, and was presently beside us.

“Don’t I get a hug?” he said.

“Not now” she replied, “Can’t you see we are busy”.

He looked at me.  “Did you get a call from Beth?  I told her to tell you I was on my way.  My phone died, or I would have called myself.”

Oh, so that’s who it was, I thought. No wonder the anger and tears.  She was very possessive about her dad. He was all she had -after her Mom died in the accident, which she had miraculously survived.  The accident had left her with a weakness in her right leg, but it gave her trouble only when she exerted it too much.

“Yes, we did,” I said, stealing a glance at her.  Her back was turned to us, but I saw her lift her hand up to her face to wipe away more tears.

“Shall I take over from you?” he asked me.

Before I could answer, she said, “No, I want Nanny Pickle to finish it with me.” There was a sulky tone to her voice.

“Ok, the two of you can finish up.  I will watch. It’s coming along nicely.  You two are doing a fine job.”

Actually, it looked quite pathetic to me.

It was a thin, frail and lopsided snowman, built by a young girl, and a completely inexperienced Nanny.

I had never built a snowman.

Until I had migrated from India a decade ago, I had never seen snow in my life.

And although I had been their Nanny for two years, and watched the two of them build a snowman two winters in a row, I had never paid much attention.

I disliked the snow.  I stayed mostly indoors during the winters.

Now here I was, making a snowman with a little girl who was upset, and would not let her dad get involved, though we sorely needed his help.

“Be careful, Nanny Pickle, you might topple it,” she said.

“I am sorry. This is my first time building a snowman,” I said, thinking an explanation was necessary to both of them.

“You are doing fine,” he said, “Keep going.”

He thinks I’m enjoying this, I thought.  Ha!

Eventually we got done.

We put the tummy on the base, then we put the head on the tummy.

We put the buttons on.

Then we put the carrot nose on.

We put the coal eyes on, then we put the stick arms on, and finally, we put the hat and scarf on.

“Snowy”, as they liked to call him, was complete.

Only there was a problem.

It was an unspoken problem, but all 3 of us were aware of it.

A tradition had been broken.

A tradition in which, a father and daughter, would build a snowman every winter.

And then they would pose for a picture with their snowman – and that picture would become their Christmas card.

This year, their Christmas card would need to be something else.

I didn’t think it would work for them to pose in front of a snowman which had been built by Nanny Pickle and her, a pathetic snowman at that.

It made me anxious to think about this.

I felt the Christmas card would lack meaning and integrity.

Furthermore, it would forever remind the girl of the year when their cherished tradition had been broken.

It pained me to think about that.

What were they going to do?

When I had a private moment with her father, Mr. Paul, that evening, I said, “You still have to take your pictures for your Christmas card, don’t you.”

“Yes, on Friday” he said.

That night, I couldn’t sleep.  I had to solve the situation.  I couldn’t bear the thought of them taking a picture with the snowman for their Christmas card.

And then an idea came to me…..

But I needed to make sure Mr. Paul would be home on Thursday for my plan to work.

I was quite distracted the next few days, because I was about to do several things which were completely out of character for me.

But every time I saw Pen look forlonly out of the window at the snowman, my resolve strengthened.

My first move was on Tuesday evening, when I announced to Mr. Paul that something had come up, and I would need to take the morning off on Thursday.

“I should arrange for a substitute,” he said.

“It’s only for a few hours in the morning.  Couldn’t you stay home?” I said, “I should be back by the afternoon.”

“I guess I can reschedule my appointments,” he said.

The second part of my plan was really quite daring.

I waited for Mr. Paul and Pen to go to bed on Wednesday night.

He drank two small pegs of whisky every night.

On the night of our story, it was agonizing for me to listen to him pour his first drink, and his second drink.

Eventually he was done, and I heard him rinse his glass.

In a few minutes, he would have his last cigarette, and go to bed.

I had to give it at least 30 minutes after he went to bed, before I could put my plan into action.

His routine annoyed me that night.

I was used to sleeping early.  It was hard for me to stay awake.

I had the uncharitable thought “Why does he have to smoke and drink when he is a single parent?  Why do men have to smoke and drink, anyway?”

But somehow I stayed awake, and when I was sure he was asleep, I got out of bed.

I was fully dressed, with my cap, gloves and overcoat.

I first tiptoed to the burglar alarm, and turned it off.

Then I tiptoed through the house to the back door, and stole out of the house from there.

In my hand was a hammer.

I could see the snowman in the moonlight.  The snow looked so white and pretty, and the snowman looked white, but as pathetic as ever, as if it knew its existence was a mistake.

I trudged towards it, taking a devious route, so I would approach it from the opposite side, rather than from the house side.

I turned and looked back at the house as I walked, to make sure everyone was still asleep.

When I got to the snowman, I took a deep breath.

Then I began to swing at it with my hammer. 

Thwap.  I knocked off his head. 

Thwap. I knocked off his middle.

Thwap.   I knocked a chunk off of the base.

Thwap.  I knocked another chunk off.

Thwap.  I knocked another chunk off.

 I didn’t stop until I had completely disintegrated it. 

The carrot, the coal, the buttons, the sticks and the hat and the scarf lay in the snow. 

They were all that was left of Snowy.

I then crept back into the house.

I re-set the burglar alarm.

I went to my room, wiped off the hammer, and put it under the bed.

Then I changed into my nightclothes, and got into bed.

It was hard to sleep, because I felt terrible about what I had done.

But it was a chance I had to take.

I had set my alarm for 5 a.m. the next morning.

When the alarm went off, I hurriedly brushed my teeth, dressed, combed my hair, and went to my car.

I had planned to spend the day in a mall in a nearby city, and take in a movie to pass the time.

 “Dear God, please make this work,” I said.

Sometimes when you do something underhand, it backfires.  But this was not one of those times.  Everything went according to plan.  There was an angel watching out for all of us.

A snowman was knocked down.

And another snowman was built in its place.

And the two people who should have built the snowman in the first place, were given a second chance.

She told me the story when I got home.

“Nanny Pickle, you will never believe what happened” she said.  “Someone knocked our snowman down – the one you and I built”

“That’s terrible,” I said.  “Who would do such a thing?”

“I don’t know, Nanny Pickle, but guess what, Paru (that was her name for her father Pa for Papa, and Ru, for the first two letters of his name, Rupert) and I made a new one, and it’s even better than the one we made, in fact, it’s even better than any of the snowmen, Paru and I have built before.”

“I saw the snowman as I was coming up the driveway, and I thought it looked bigger and handsomer than the one we had built” I said.

“Oh it’s way bigger and handsomer.  Do you want to go out with me and see it?”

“Yes, I’d love to” I said.

So we bundled up, we put on our caps and our leggings and our woolen pants; we put on our overcoats and our boots and our gloves and our scarves, and we went out.

“My goodness,” I said, “it is fantastic.  It will make a fantastic Christmas card.

She laughed, “Fantastic.  That’s what you always say.”

And so a Christmas tradition was restored.

A snowman was built.

And a picture was taken with the snowman.

And both the smiles on the Christmas card were 100% genuine.

When I saw the Christmas card, I couldn’t help myself.

Any guesses what I said?

That’s right. 

 “Fantastic!”

There’s this one thing, though.

I didn’t know whether I should be considered an angel or a devil for my part in it.

You decide.

As always, thanks for reading, and have a great day and week.  This post is dedicated to my mother. It was inspired by her Mrs. Martin series of stories.

Friday, December 25, 2015

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year



Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to my family.  To my daughter. To my sisters and my brother, and their families.  To my nieces and nephews. To those in the Bay Area. To those in California. To those in Wisconsin. To those in Texas. To those in New York. To those in India. To spouses, daughters in law, sons in law,  to children, and grandchildren in the family,  to all who are connected to me through marriage.May each of you have a blessed Christmas.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to my relatives.  To the relatives on my mother's side.  To the relatives on my father's side.  To the relatives through marriage.  To the relatives with whom I have shared good times. And the relatives with whom I will share good times in the future.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to all the people I have loved.  To all those who have touched my life, and all those whose paths have crossed with mine.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to my managers and coworkers and all those who have been part of my professional life. To those I have learned from, and those who have let me teach them. To those who gave me opportunities. And those who took a chance on me. To those who challenged me.  And those who nurtured me.  To those who infected me with their enthusiasm and energy. And those who reached out and had my back. To those who turned a working relationship into an enduring friendship.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to my neighbors. To my present neighbors and my past neighbors. To neighbors who have had me over.  To neighbors who became my friends.  To neighbors who have lent a helping hand.  To neighbors who have got me out of a jam. To neighbors who have stopped and exchanged a friendly word.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to my friends.  To all the friends who let me into their lives.  To old friends and new friends.  To friends in India , friends in America, friends in Australia, and friends elsewhere.  To friends I have known for a long time, and friends I have known for a short time. To friends who helped me get acclimated in America.  And friends who helped me stay connected with India. To friends I have met through work, and friends I have met outside of work. To friends I have walked with.  And friends I have dined with.  To friends I have lived with. And friends I have visited with. To friends I have traveled with. And friends I have done taxes with. To friends I have long heart to hearts with.  And friends I have long lunches with.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to all the people I've learned from, or whose work I have taken pleasure in.  To the authors of books I have read.  To the artists whose work I have had the pleasure of laying my eyes on. To the directors, actors, producers and all the people involved in making the movies I've watched.  To the composers, performers and producers of the songs I've listened to; and the directors, actors and crew involved in the theatrical performances I have attended. To the people whose lives, or stories, have inspired me.

And finally, Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to my readers.  To the readers who have taken time from their busy schedule to read my posts.  To the readers who have commented on my posts.  To the readers who have given me feedback.  To the readers who publicize my posts through likes, pins, tweets and votes. To the readers who keep me going.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you all!

Sunday, December 20, 2015

Advice from a Retired Elf (RE) to an Aspiring Elf (AE)



“SW is what it used to be called” said the retired Santa’s Workshop Elf.

He was visiting an AE (Aspiring Elf) to talk to him about working and living at Santa’s Workshop.

The (AE) Aspiring Elf wanted to apply for a job at Santa’s Workshop.

“Do you like snow?” asked the RE (Retired Elf).  “That’s the first question.  If you don’t like snow, you will be miserable.  You are pretty much snowed in all the time.”

“I love snow,” said the AE.

“Great, said the RE.  “There was this elf from Santa Cruz.  Surfer Dude.  Beach bum. He took a long time to get adjusted.”

“Ok, so how does a fellow like me, swing a job there,” said the AE.

“Well first, you need the right clothes,” said the RE, “you have to look the part.”

“Should I buy a suit and tie?” asked the AE.

“Suit and tie?!!!!!! Haven’t you seen the Santa elves in the movies?  The green tunics, the green pants, the green cap, with red trim? That’s what you need.  Suit and tie!!!!!!!”

“I’m sorry, what was I thinking,” said the AE, hitting the side of his head.

“Then, you need to know what kind of Santa’s Elf you want to be.  Do you want to be a Manufacturing Elf, a Logistics Elf, an Accounting Elf, a Packaging Elf, A Maintenance Elf, a Sled Body Shop Elf, A Customer Service Elf, a Letter Sorting and Filing Elf, A Chef Elf, a Dietitian Elf, Doctor Elf, a Tailor Elf, a Hair-cutting Elf, a Therapist Elf…”

“A Therapist Elf?” said the AE, “What for?”

“You know, to deal with psychological issues.  Rudolph’s embarrassment over his nose required several therapy sessions. SAD is also a common disorder among elves.”

“I see,” said the AE. “And what do the Dietitian Elves do – do they make everyone watch what they eat?”

“Yes, indeed,” said the RE. Some elves have to be on special diets. With all the cookies and milk Santa has at Christmas, Santa is one of them too. He has to watch what he eats most of the year.  He has metabolic syndrome and his triglycerides are high.  Luckily, he isn’t South Asian. Many South Asians have metabolic syndrome, even with a normal BMI, and low cholesterol. So they have to cut way back on their carbs. No cookies and milk for them.  Of course, if Santa was South Asian, he could learn more about insulin resistance by reading the blog of Stanford practitioner Dr. Ronesh Sinha. Perhaps even buy his book.”

“Now once you decide what kind of Elf you want to be, the next thing you will need is a resume,” continued the RE.

“A resume?  What’s that?” asked the AE.

“It’s a written summary of your education, experience, and skills.” said the RE.

“You want to include the right information in it, and exclude everything else.  If you go to the Minoo Jha Life Strategies blog on your computer, there is an article titled Resume Tips from Fortune 500 Companies.  You should read it.”

The AE made the RE repeat what he had just said, and wrote the information down on a piece of paper.

“If you need some help deciding what kind of Santa’s Workshop Elf you want to be, there’s another article on the same blog.  I think it’s called Can a job-hunting book show you the path back to yourself?

“Ok, let me write that down as well.  “Can a what?” asked the AE.

“Can a job-hunting book show you the path back to yourself?” repeated the RE.

“Great, please go on.” said the AE.

“You need to be a virtualoso,” said the RE.

“You mean a virtuoso,” said the AE. “My Mom says I am a virtuoso at Tetris.”

“No, I mean a virtualoso.”

“What’s that?”

“You can read that on the same blog too” said the RE.”I think the article is called Are You a Virtualoso?”

“I see I have a lot of homework to do,” said the AE.

The RE nodded.

“Then you will need references,” said the RE.

“References, what’s that?” asked the AE, scribbling it all down furiously.

“Elves who are willing to vouch for your character and work,” said the RE. Think of elves who could be your references - teachers, friends.”

“I will work on that,” said the AE.

“You also need a Linked In profile.  I can help you create one.” said the RE.

“Are there many applicants for each job?” asked the AE.

“You bet. It’s prestigious to work in Santa’s Workshop.  You will need to make sure you stand out.”

“How do I do that?” asked the AE.

“Read “Dare to Share” on Minoo Jha Life Strategies. It may give you some ideas,” said the RE.

“Ok,” said the AE. “But how can I be sure I am cut out to be an SW Elf?”

“You just need to apply yourself.  Focus on becoming good at your assigned work.  Eventually, you might even become great at your assigned work.”

“Of course, there will be challenges,” continued the RE, “You should use your imagination to deal with them.”

“And you need to learn how to handle constraints,” said the RE, “because the number of gift deliveries just keeps growing, and time and resources are always in short supply.”

“Is life at Santa’s Workshop very different from civilian elf life?” asked the AE.

“It is unique.” said the RE. It’s much more regimented and structured.  There are activities scheduled for every hour in the day, and you have to go to bed and get up at the same time every day. And yet it is such a positive atmosphere, one doesn’t really seem to mind.”

“I am not used to structure.” said the AE.

“Oh, you will get used to it” said the RE. “You will get used to going to bed, and getting up at the same time every day, and eating at the same time every day.  The food will take some getting used to.  It’s different, because it’s the North Pole, you know.”

“How will I know what to do when I get there?” said the AE.

“Oh, your boss will explain everything to you.  And they have a great training program.  Your first class will be handwriting class.  You know – to interpret what the kids are writing.  Also, interpretive spelling class…..I was really good at interpretive spelling.”

The RE was lost in thought for a minute.

“Interpretive spelling – that’s a mouthful – what is it?” asked the AE.

“Oh, it’s figuring out what the words are when they are spelled wrong. “

The RE wrote some words on a paper and handed it to the AE.

“Ok, let’s see how you do with this…..”

The paper read “Dear Santa, Can you burring a umbella for me mumm”.

“Is it ‘can you bring an umbrella for my mum?’ ” asked the AE.

“Good.  You seem to be a natural for interpretive spelling,” said the RE.

Just then, the AE’s mom came into the room.

“Is he still enamored with working in Santa’s Workshop after what you’ve told him?” she asked the RE.  “You know you shouldn’t get his hopes up too much.  I hear it is very competitive.”

“Oh, I think he has a good chance,” said the RE.

“See, Mom,” said the AE, “you are the only one who doesn’t believe in me.”

“I will believe in you more, if you do what you say you will do – like cleaning up your room, for instance,” she said cheerfully, before leaving the room.

“Oh you will have to keep things tidy at SW” said the RE. “If you lose any of the personal effects they give you, and they provide you with everything, you will have to work extra hours to get a replacement.”

“What if someone is caught stealing?” asked the AE.

“Santa will have a talk with them.  And the therapist will have a talk with them.  There is no shaming.  They try to understand what’s behind it.  Of course, if you don’t stop doing it, then you go home.  It’s kind of like the 3 strikes rule humans have.

“If I get sick?” asked the AE.

“Oh, the sick benefits are very good.  You get to go to the SW Hospital and Spa, where you are nursed back to health.  It’s a cool place – almost like being on vacation.”

“Do shirkers pretend to be ill, just to go there?”

“Oh, very few get away with it, because the doctors, nurses and social workers are very good at figuring that out.  If you are suspected of faking illness, Santa will come and see you, and the therapist, and you will have to work extra hours to make up for the time.”

“So you can’t get away with much,” asked the AE.

“Yes, because making sure every child gets their gifts, is a serious business.”

Just then, the AE’s doorbell rang.

Presently, his girlfriend came into the room.

She looked from the AE to the RE.

“Angel, this is ….. He is a retired SW elf. I invited him over to find out what it’s like to work in Santa’s Workshop.”

Angel’s eyes began to tear up.

“Maybe I will come back later,” she said.

The AE said, “Stay. It’s alright.”

“No, I should go.” she said, and left.

After she left, there was a short silence.

“She is upset.  I am not sure what to do.  Should I sacrifice my dream to make her happy?  Or should I sacrifice our relationship to pursue my dream?”

“Our sacrifices define us,” said the RE.

The AE dwelt on this for a minute, but then decided to switch the subject back to SW.

“Is there any entertainment at SW?”

“Yes – at appointed times, of course.”

“What was your favorite entertainment?”

“The Sled Races,” said the RE.  “Each team gets to build a sled for the races….

“I also liked the talent shows…..

“Do you play an instrument?”

“I play the guitar,” said the AE.

“Oh, there are too many guitarists.  You will find it hard to get into the SW band.  I play the cello, and since so few elves play the cello, I got in.  They used to call me Cello.  Some retired elves call me Cello even today.”

The more the AE heard about Santa’s Workshop, the more he wanted to go.

And so, with the RE’s help, he applied for a job there, and was accepted.

He became one of Santa’s most trusted toy manufacturing workers, and had many interesting experiences.

But those experiences and stories are for another day.

Hope you enjoyed this Christmas story – which is a departure from my Elements series of posts.  I am so glad the economy perked up in 2015, and the unemployment rate is down.  I hope it gets even better next year. To all those of you looking for your first job, or a new job, I hope this post inspires you to take a confident step forward in the New Year.  Also, I have included links to Dr. Ronesh Sinha's blog and book.  Every South Asian would do well to give both a read, and to implement Dr. Sinha's dietary and lifestyle advice. I care about each of you, and I hope you take charge of your health in 2016. Thanks for reading, and have a great Christmas week…..Minoo. P.S. Thanks to Ajay and David for their comments on my last post, and thanks to the rest of you for your likes, pins and votes. Much appreciated.