What is the biggest waste of time in your life?

Complaining.

I used to be a big complainer.

Here’s what I was able to tell myself...

Minoo, you are a big complainer.

What good is that?

Be a victor, not a victim.

Here's how you can do that…

1. Be happy with the progress you have made. Accept that achievement is not instantaneous. The important thing is to have put things in motion.

2. Continue to be quietly assertive. Big goals, big ideas may require that.

3. Celebrate the process –enjoy the adventure and the challenges; the knowledge and wisdom gained. Plateau is followed by breakthrough, breakthrough is followed by plateau. This is a well-recognized pattern. Let the current plateau create excitement in you about breaking through to a new level.

4. Use your imagination. Imagination is a powerful tool for dealing with frustrated desires.

5. Stay positive and hopeful – understand the goal may take more time than you expected. The important thing is you are building on your success.

6. Take a break - focus on something else for a while. Pauses often lead to breakthroughs.

7. Look at the problem from a different angle – are you missing something. Could there be a different solution?

8. Try new tactics and strategies. There may be another way to get there.

9. Ask for advice. Someone else may have the answer.

10. Partner with someone, or if you are already partnered with someone, bring in new resources. Take inspiration from people who persisted over a long period of time to achieve their goals. Find ways to keep yourself going.

If everything else fails, transcend the desire.

The more frustrated desires you are able to take in your stride, the more effectively you will be able to deal with reality. You can always use your ability to meditate to achieve that.

This is how I switched my mentality from a victim's mentality to a victor's mentality. If you are a complainer, you can use some of my tools to make the switch that I did. Good luck.  If I could do it (and I was one of the world's biggest complainers), you can too!