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Sunday, August 12, 2018

How To Lead A Good Life – Part 4

Move away from old thinking.

Move towards new thinking.

You are what you are today, as a result of your PAST THINKING.

What you will be, and what you will have tomorrow, will be the result of your CURRENT THINKING/THOUGHTS TODAY.

If your past thinking – your old thinking – has put you in a good place, leave well alone.

You don’t have to do anything.

Keep doing what you are doing.

Stay the course.

If you want to take things up a level, up a notch, then take things up a notch, without doing anything crazy or mindless.

If past thinking, your old thinking, however – has got you into a mess, then it’s time for an overhaul.

You need to clear your mind, and you need to clear your life, so you can make room for fresh thinking.

If your thinking is not serving you well in your current circumstances, take out your imaginary broom. Sweep the mud out of your head.

Throw away all the false ideas, the narcissism, the wasteful thoughts, and throw away all physical and mental crutches.

You cannot have a clear mind with any of these things: 1) pointless, repetitive, negative thoughts 2) alcohol, 3) drugs 4) lack of sleep 5) poor health, 6) lies and deceptions.

Do what you can about these things.

Do what you can about what you have control over.

What you have control over is “YOU”.

You can control what you put into your body, and what you do not put into your body.

You can control how you structure your day.

You can choose to entertain the thoughts, and do the things that will strengthen your mind, body and spirit, or choose to entertain the thoughts, and do the things that will weaken your mind, body and spirit.

You have full control over that.

You can destroy by the thoughts and choices you make.

You can also create, re-create, and reinvent by the choices you make.

What will you choose to do?

Will you choose to be an example of the high maintenance king, or the high maintenance queen – the one who can never grow up emotionally, and is a poster child of PROBLEM PEOPLE?

Or will you choose to be an example of an INSPIRED LIFE, a life lived right, and choices made well.

Remember, the right approach will involve working on yourself, rather than trying to manipulate other people.

Work on your own physical well being, on your own character, on your own personality, on your own circumstances, on your own goals, on your own thoughts, and your own words, and your own actions.

When you do this, things will more likely fall into place, and go the right way.

Give yourself a chance for things to go the right way in your life.

It’s entirely up to you.

It all starts with how you THINK.

Once the epiphany is under way, the next step is to TAKE MASSIVE ACTION in the direction of your new understanding.

As the poem Keeper of the Keys in the book Thinking For a Change says, you are the KEEPER OF THE KEYS. Don’t let those keys rust on the key-chain.

THINKING FOR A CHANGE:

You are the Keeper of the Keys.

You are the Guard at the Gate.

Wating in line to get through that door

is LOVE. And also HATE.

In line to enter is GENTLE PEACE.

And also VIOLENT WAR.

You must choose who may, and who

May not come through that door.

INTOLERANCE tries to sneak on through

On wings of FEAR, or PRIDE.

It hides behind DREAMS of BELONGING,

And tries to sneak inside.

Oh! Be alert! You’re the Guard who decides

Who GOES and who may STAY.

You are The Keeper of The Keys to Your Mind.

Who will you let in today?

Acknowledgements:

Thanks for the feedback, (comments, likes, shares) on Part 1 and 2 of this series. I appreciate the kudos from old friends, new friends, and relatives who have become friends. You keep me going.

NEXT, Thanks to all readers, current and future, for sharing my journey to wisdom, meaning and a better life. Like you, I am trying to find my way through this complex maze we call life, and I am honored to have you share my journey, as I continue to seek the wisdom hidden in plain sight.

FINALLY, A Happy Birthday shout-out: to those with August birthdays. Hope you use your birthday month to think of all the ways in which you can clear out old thinking, make way for fresh thinking. Remember you are the Keeper of the Keys to Your Mind.

Have a blessed week, and hope to see you next week.

P.S. Not sure if you have time, but if you do, you may enjoy these other posts:

Friendships

The United States of Friendship – Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, Part 4, Part 5, Part 6,Part 7, Part 8, Part 9, Part 10, Part 11, Part 12

Family

Our Cake Boss Family, Family Songs, The Nightdress Brigade, Family Advice I Am Grateful For, The Porki And Bonkers Tradition, No Need for 23 and Me,Letters to Lucas, Flying Lessons

Pets

A Fresh Perspective on Pets, Secrets of The Super Models In Our Family,BowWow, Meoww, Why You Should Not Abandon Your Pet

Nature

Post on Trees, Reprising Joy Kilmer

Hobbies

Cricket, Glorious Cricket, Splendid Post, What!

Managing Your Money

Yoga for Investors, How to Turn Your Girl Scout or Cub Scout Into a Stock Scout, Financial Piece of Mind, Financial Piece of Mind – Part Deux, A Retirement Planning Formula You Won’t Find on Oprah

Simplifying Your Life

You know what Wesabi is, How About Wabi Sabi? The Simple Life, The Element of Simplicity and Its Hope for Living a More Satisfying Life

Getting Over Your Self-Consciousness

The Element of Release From Inhibition, The Element of Being Less Self-Centered and Its Hope for Seeing Things in The Correct Light, The Element of Getting Out of Our Comfort Zone and Its Hope For Experiencing More of What Life Has to Offer

Learning to Laugh

How To Deal With The Sheldon Coopers in Your Life – Part 1, Part 2, Part 3,Part 4, The Nightdress Brigade, You Aced the SAT, How About the LAT?, How To Cause Atmost Confuzen at the Scripps Spelling Bee, How To Go From Madonna to Lilly to Myrtle in The Course of A Single Evening - And Even Have a Sex Change, A Facebook Face-Off, A Short Stint in Advertising

Learning to Relax

How To Become a Low Maintenance Person, Connected Minds, How To Become The Kind of Person People Want to Work with, How Many Times a Day Do You Visit Ireland? The Art of Carrying Things Lightly

Health

Raising the Bar, 4 Healthy Eating Ideas I Learned from My Friend Julia, The Element of Becoming More Focused and Precise In Our Goals and Its Hope for Achieving Powerful Results

Pursuing A Dream

What’s Next For You? The Element of The First Step and Its Hope for Getting Big Things Started In Our Lives, She Victories

Changing in Good Ways

Maybe Its Time To Become More Receptive, Maybe It’s Time To Live More Purposefully, Maybe It’s Time To Bust Some Myths, Maybe It’s Time to Walk In The Direction Of Your Fears, Maybe It’s Time To Understand What Freedom Is, Maybe It’s Time To Turn the Page, Maybe It’s Time To Rock The World, Maybe It’s Time For Freshness

Sunday, August 5, 2018

How To Live A Good Life - Part 3

Turn "I can’t" into "I can" by giving more things a chance.

Recently, I learned from a friend, that a friend of hers (whom I am acquainted with) was having a hard time getting a job.

Employers were turning her down, because she didn’t know Excel.

When I heard this, I immediately said to my friend, “Tell her to call me. I will teach her Excel.”

My friend said, “Yes, I thought of you. I guessed you might be able to help her with Excel.”

I remember how strange and frightening Excel was to me, when I first started to learn Excel.

It didn’t come naturally to me – not at all.

When we don’t know something, it frightens us to think we have to learn it.

I thought I would give learning Excel a try, but secretly I felt I wouldn’t succeed.

I am sure glad I did give it a try.

Because, frightened as I was, I learned Excel.

Not only that, from learning it out of necessity for my job as a Commissions Analyst, I went on to enjoy the process of increasing my knowledge of Excel, and I became better and better at it.

I have definitely come a long way from those early “terrified of Excel” days.

It is laughable to think I was once so nervous about Excel, and today I feel confident enough to teach it to someone.

It is intimidating to learn something new, to try something new, or to enter uncharted territory.

But give it enough time, and the scariest thing will become something you take for granted.

Remember how scared you were, when you first learned swimming?

Remember how scared you were when you first learned to ride a bicycle?

Remember how scared you were when you started Driver’s Ed?

And yet, today, you do all those things, and you just take it for granted that you can do all those things.

If trying something new is frightening to you, just think of how you learned to ride a bicycle, how you learned to swim, and how you learned to drive.

It’s the same thing.

Sooner or later, it will become second nature to you, just as bicycling, swimming and driving did.

I have been doing my own taxes since 2003.

Before I learned to do my taxes, I thought taxes were beyond me.

But I was wrong.

It was just fear, and inertia, and a reluctance to go out of my comfort zone, that made me think that.

Just like with Excel, after I took the plunge with taxes, I went from ignorance to knowledge, from fear to confidence.

I was not just able to do my own taxes.

I was able to pass on my knowledge to friends who were interested in doing their own taxes.

I was also able to help people do their taxes.

One of my friends liked my help so much, I would go over to her house and we would do her taxes together. We have done this for several years.

Give yourself a chance to try something new, and one thing will lead to another.

That’s what my experience bears out.

Let’s look at another example.

When I first became aware of stocks through my friend Ajay (of A Short Stint in Advertising fame), ignorance and fear held me back.

When I got over my fear, and started investing, one thing led to another, and I became more and more comfortable and knowledgeable, not just about stocks, but about many other areas of personal finance.

If anyone came to me for advice, I would definitely have some insights to pass on.

I have passed on some of my insights through blog posts such as How To Turn Your Girl Scout Or Cub Scout Into a Stock Scout, Yoga for Investors, Financial Piece of Mind and Financial Piece of Mind Part 2.

I also gave a 3 part Money Workshop on Earning Money, Spending Money and Saving Money to GATE students at an elementary school.

I wouldn’t have been able to give this workshop, if I had not been able to conquer my fear of investing.

I also wouldn’t have been able to give the workshop, if I had not been able to conquer my fear of going up in front of an audience.

Going up in front of an audience has been an extreme fear for me, for all of my life.

But I joined Toastmasters.

At Toastmasters, I had to go up before a group of 10-15 people, and give different speeches.

I gave 10 speeches in all – which is what you have to do to complete your CTM, and get your Competent Toastmaster certification.

I memorized the speeches – a tip which a mentor gave to me.

But I was terrified I would forget the words, and I was terrified I would become tongue-tied, when I was up there in front of everybody.

Even if I didn't get tongue tied, my heart would be hammering, as I delivered my speeches.

But after most of my speeches, I would get compliments.

What a relief – it seemed nobody could tell how nervous I was.

Toastmasters gave me the confidence to go up in front of 25-30 kids, to give that Money Workshop.

Personal finance and public speaking are 2 more areas, in which I was able to turn “I Can’t” into “I Can”, by giving myself a chance.

Don’t let limiting beliefs, fear and inertia limit your options, and limit your possibilities.

Turn "I Can’t" Into "I Can".

All it takes is a willingness to give yourself a chance.

You don’t have to remain where you are.

Propel your life forward by turning “I Can’t” into “I Can”.

Say yes to something new today.

Acknowledgements:

FINALLY, A Happy Birthday shout-out: to those with August birthdays. Hope you use your birthday month to better your life by turning at least one “I Can’t” into an “I Can”.

Have a blessed week, and hope to see you next week.

P.S. Not sure if you have time, but if you do, you may enjoy these other posts:

Friendships