1. Think of your blessings.
Even a simple
thing like the presence of loving pets,
loving friends and family, or having a comfortable
living situation, is a blessing. Improve
your outlook by thinking of all your current
blessings. This will increase your personal power.
2. Express positive thoughts out
aloud.
Tell people what
you have learned about your situation. Tell them what’s good about the fact this happened to you. The more positive things you think and say about what happened to
you, the more positive will be your future
thoughts, feelings, and communication. The more positive things you think and say about your situation, the more improved will be your outlook, and optimism about the future.This will increase your personal power.
3. Take positive action.
Instead of
isolating, connect. Connect on the phone. Connect for coffee and conversation. Connect with individuals or groups
who will revive your spirits. Connect for a cause you believe in. There are so many ways to connect. Connecting will increase your personal
power.
4. Express gratitude.
If your
situation is a result of other people having
done something to you, try to think of the
good things they did, before the negative
event happened. Maybe you can even write
a thank you letter or note of appreciation to
them, acknowledging those good things. You
can write the letter and keep it, or
write the letter and mail it.
Either way, its impact will be immediate. You will feel better both about yourself, and about the people who
betrayed you or harmed you. You
will turn the toxic air between you
into healthy life-giving air. You will pave
the way for a positive future relationship with
them. This will increase your personal power.
5. Keep yourself fit.
Get a gym
membership and sign up for a pumped
up gym class. Try a new style of haircut. Pay
attention to your grooming. Keep your appearance smart and sharp. This will increase your personal power.
6. Make ‘not working’ work for you.
Turn it into an
advantage. If you are not working, think
about the fact most people become their healthiest
and most resourceful when they are not working. This is because they have the
time to work out, and eat right, and think of ideas. You can become part of this wonderful statistic. It will increase your personal power multi-fold.
7. Do something positive every day.
Do something positive
in at least one area in your life
every day – something good for your career,
or good for your health, or good for your relationships,
or good for your personal development,
or good for your emotional balance. It may be something as simple as taking your dog for a walk, working on a creative project, cooking something, reading
an uplifting book, or working in your
garden. This will increase your
personal power.
8. Talk to the right people.
Talk to friends
or family who believe in you. They will
remind you of your strength and your abilities,
and it will help you stay positive and keep
negative thoughts at bay. This will increase your
personal power.
9. Pick up a pen and list all your
achievements.
Write down all
the amazing things you have accomplished in your life. Write down the disadvantages you overcame to achieve each
of those accomplishments. Put dates
against each milestone, and record the
wonderful results and events associated
with each milestone. This will
increase your personal power.
10. Read and watch positive & inspiring material.
Find material which
encourages you and energizes
you. Find material which teaches you to become smarter and wiser and less
afraid. Listen to and watch this
material again and again and again. Make the messages part of your DNA. This will increase your personal power.
11. Bring back your sense of perspective.
Increase your
personal power by thinking “If this had
not happened to me, I wouldn’t have learned
to value the things that matter most.”
12. Do things which give you a sense of control.
Do things which
will give you an “I’ve got this” feeling.
Clean up your house, clear your backyard,
get up to date with your medical appointments
and financial obligations. This will increase
your personal power.
13. Find the silver lining in your situation.
What is true
for you? Have your tough times made
you simpler, freer, bolder, wiser, more creative,
have they made you more appreciative? Spend
some time to find the silver lining in your
situation. This will increase your personal power.
14. Create joy for others.
Cook a meal for
someone, ask someone to join you for a
walk, or for happy hour. Creating joy for others will make you feel good about yourself.
Spreading joy is a great way to restore your
confidence and bring back your personal power.
15. Grab a pen and think of some ideas.
Put down some
ideas of what you can do in your current
situation. How can you use your time, your energy, your resources? Some really creative ideas and insights can come out of putting
on your thinking cap. This will increase
your personal power.
16. Surrender your problem to a higher power.
This sounds counter-intuitive, but it is proven. It has worked for many others. It could work for you, and restore and increase your personal power.
17. Finally, be hopeful.
Remind yourself
of the wisdom of ‘This Too Shall Pass’. No matter, what you are going through, it will pass.
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As always,
thanks for sharing my Journey to Wisdom, Meaning and a Better Life. Like you I am trying to find my way through
this complex maze we call life, and I am honored to have you share my journey,
as I continue to seek the wisdom hidden in plain sight.
P.S. Thanks to everyone who sent condolences for the deaths of my sister
Angela and her husband Jim (see last post). A reader asked how they died. They died of complications from influenza within 2 days of each other.
A selection of my past posts is below. If this is your first visit, I would be so honored if you spent some more time on my blog, and read a few more posts:
Friendships
The United States of Friendship – Part 1, Part 2, Part 3,
Part 4, Part 5, Part 6, Part 7, Part 8, Part 9, Part 10, Part 11, Part 12
Family
Our Cake Boss Family, Family Songs, The Nightdress Brigade, Family Advice I Am Grateful For, The Porki And Bonkers Tradition, No Need for 23 and Me, Letters to Lucas, Flying Lessons
Pets
A Fresh Perspective on Pets, Secrets of The Super Models In Our Family, BowWow, Meoww, Why You Should Not Abandon Your Pet
Nature
Hobbies
Managing Your Money
Yoga for Investors, How to Turn Your Girl Scout or Cub Scout Into a Stock Scout, Financial Piece of Mind, Financial Piece of Mind – Part Deux,
A Retirement Planning Formula You Won’t Find on Oprah
Simplifying Your Life
You know what Wesabi is, How About Wabi Sabi? The Simple Life, The Element of Simplicity and Its Hope for Living a More Satisfying Life
Getting Over Your
Self-Consciousness
The Element of Release From Inhibition, The Element of Being Less Self-Centered and Its Hope for Seeing Things in The Correct Light, The Element of Getting Out of Our Comfort Zone and Its Hope For Experiencing More of What Life Has to Offer
Learning to Laugh
How To Deal With The Sheldon Coopers in Your Life – Part 1,
Part 2, Part 3, Part 4, The Nightdress Brigade, You Aced the SAT, How About the LAT?,
How To Cause Atmost Confuzen at the Scripps Spelling Bee, How To Go From Madonna to Lilly to Myrtle in The Course of A Single Evening - And Even Have a Sex Change, A Facebook Face-Off, A Short Stint in Advertising
Learning to Relax
How To Become a Low Maintenance Person, Connected Minds, How To Become The Kind of Person People Want to Work with, How Many Times a Day Do You Visit Ireland? The Art of Carrying Things Lightly
Health
Raising the Bar, 4 Healthy Eating Ideas I Learned from My Friend Julia, The Element of Becoming More Focused and Precise In Our Goals and Its Hope for Achieving Powerful Results
Pursuing A Dream
What’s Next For You? The Element of The First Step and Its Hope for Getting Big Things Started In Our Lives, She Victories
